Tuesday, December 15, 2020

Grieving Christmas

UPDATE
Dr. Saumya Dave was just on MSNBC talking about this and offering advice on how to get through this holiday. The first thing is to honor what you are feeling....

Here is a good video from Dr. Dave Campbell on mental health during COVID-19



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Kathie Costos
December 14, 2020

Christmas is supposed to be a happy time, when we're all getting gifts, writing cards and planning parties. That is what it is supposed to be like but for many people, it is a sad time. When you've lost people to send  cards to, have no money to buy gifts because you don't have enough money to simply survive, and there is a pandemic keeping people apart, it seems worse than normal days.

Right now there are over 300,000 lives lost because of COVID-19, and many more will follow. Over 16 million people have been hit by this killer, and many of them will have the illnesses linger for years. There are thousands and thousands in the hospitals fighting for their lives, and their families cannot see them.

Losing people in your life makes it worse. After my Dad died, at the age of 58, it was hard. It was hard when one of my brothers died at 43. It was hard when my Mom passed away at 85. When my oldest brother died, it was the hardest loss for me. I stopped sending Christmas cards. I kept thinking in time, this time of year I used to love, would once again be something I felt good about. I am still waiting for that year.

The thing is, people like us need to be comforted too. That is why today, I picked a couple of videos about loss. If you have PTSD, it could have come with loss too. But you are not alone. 


The best advice I can give is, don't put needless pressure on yourself. Do not try to act happy when you need some space. Try to push any negative memories out of your head and take comfort with the good ones you have. Above all, take care of yourself and do what you can honor your feelings of loss. Include the people who are still in your life in doing something that you need as a gift from them.

Go to the cemetery. Make cards for those you lost. Watch a movie that was their favorite. Paint pictures of them, or collect pictures of things that mattered to them and make a collage. Pick something that will help you remember what this time of year is supposed to be all about.....a season of love.

The Sweetest Gift
Song by The Piano Guys

I'm not gonna lie
Christmas really hurts this time
Cause you're not here to celebrate with me
Tears fill my eyes
The memories flood my mind
As I place your ornament upon our tree
Although this year I have a broken heart
It gives me hope and joy as I remember where you are
You're with the Son of God
You're with the Prince of Peace
You're with the one who's celebrating
And that thought amazes me
Sometimes I still break down
Grieving that we're apart
But the sweetest gift is knowing where you are
You're with the Son of God
Got your picture in the frame
And a stocking with your name
Oh God knows it's been hard letting go
And I can't bring you back but I'll see you again
And all that thought is healing to my soul
I'll miss making angels with you in the snow
I guess instead you will be singing with them all around God's throne
You're with the Son of God
You're with the Prince of Peace
You're with the one who's celebrating
And that thought amazes me
Sometimes I still break down
Grieving that we're apart
But the sweetest gift is knowing where you are
Cause you're with the Son of God
And I know the Christmas season was your favorite time of year
You loved to help us decorate our tree
But now that you're with Jesus
Can't imagine how you feel
'Cause he's the one who bleed and died
Upon the tree for you and me
You're with the Son of God
You're with the Prince of Peace
You're with the one who's celebrating
And that thought amazes me
Sometimes I still break down
Grieving that we're apart
But the sweetest gift is knowing where you are
Yes, the sweetest gift is knowing where you are
Yes, the sweetest gift is knowing you're in his arms
You're with the Son of God

Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Craig Aven 



Phil Collins - Since I Lost You 

It seems in a moment your whole world can shatter
Like morning dreams they just disappear
Like dust in your hand falling to the floor
Oh, how can life ever be the same
'Cos my heart is broken in pieces
Yes, my heart is broken in pieces
Since you've been gone
It's all too easy to take so much for granted
But it's so hard to find the words to say
Like a castle in the sand the water takes away
But how can life ever be the same
'Cos my heart is broken in pieces
Yes, my heart is broken in pieces
Since I've lost you
Oh, now you'll never see
Oh, you'll never know
All the things I planned for you
Things for you and me, oh
I held your hand so tightly
That I couldn't let it go
Now how can life ever be the same
'Cos my heart is broken in pieces
Yes, my heart is broken in pieces
Since I've lost you
My heart girl, is broken in pieces
Oh, my heart is broken in pieces
Since you've been gone
My heart, I know, broken in pieces
Yes, my heart is broken in pieces

Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Anthony Banks / Phil Collins / Michael Rutherford
Longfellow grieve too!

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